bad news !

[kez&sue]

hi all we have been booked up since xmas as usual to go back to icmeler for the 13th time due to go on the 27th of august and to be honest i dont think i have looked forward to our holiday as much before,but a couple of days ago my wifes mother was given 8 weeks to live although this had been expected its still a shock when its confirmed myself and the wife sat down and had a chat about what we should do and we have decided to carry on as though we are still going on the 27th i was wondering if anyone else had any experience of this sort of thing and how we go about things if indeed we have to cancel or postpone our holiday we are travelling with jet* and we have travel insurance through boots which i believe covers cancellation or early curtailment of your holiday any info anyone could give me would be greatly appreciated.

[MistySunshine]

Hi,
Just wanted to say am really sorry for what you are going through.hopefully the insurance company sort this out for you x

[dejavu]

Sorry to hear your sad news, and the predicament it now places you in regarding your planned holiday. Illness among elderly or dependent relatives is one of those awful worries that faces us all when we plan holiday trips, and we just have to try and factor it into the plans. We had to cancel a planned trip to Icmeler 4 weeks ago because of unexpected illness but our trip was "flight only" so I am not sure if what I have to say is of any use to you. I had the bright idea of trying to move the flight to later in the year rather than cancelling and going through the whole Insurance claim business, which can be very frustrating. Since I had already checked us in on-line the airline's website said that the dates could not be changed but I found a customer support line telephone number and, after the usual tedious wait and tinny music, got a really helpful young woman at the other end. I told her the problem about being checked-in already so unable to change and to my great delight she said those magic words "That's not a problem, I'll just uncheck you". This was done and I went on-line and changed our flight dates to ones later in the year. Of course, you have to pay an 'admin fee' for the privilege of doing this so it does cost you, but for me it was preferable to taking the insurance claim route.

Good luck, and I hope you work something out satisfactorily.

[kez&sue]

thank you for all your kind words it makes me feel really selfish worrying about our holiday moving it or cancelling it or claiming the money back when theres obviousley a lady who is about to die but this year has probably been our hardest financialy to make this holiday happen so from a practicle point of view we cannot afford to just lose the money hopefully we will still make the trip especially as we have just been told that two of our sons and there partners had also booked as a surprise to us so its also there grandmother so they are also in this predicament do we go or do we cancel anyway thank you all again sorry to rant on about such a miserable topic back to looking at more cheerful posts.

[Silverfox BC]

I am sure no one thinks you are ranting on, we all feel for you. Only advice we can give is carry on as if it is going to happen (the holiday).When the time comes you will know what you can do, the insurance should cover you but you may still be able to go. We went on holiday the day after we buried Mum, felt horrible at the time, and guilty, but it did us all good and I am sure she would have been the last one to say dont go. Best wishes,Brian and Cyn.

[noodles1609]

So very sorry you have faced this news. We've been there with my OH's mum and it's terrible. The one thing that made it easier to bear for us was to put ourselves in her shoes - what would she want us to do. It's really hard, but on a practical side, check your insurance and give jet2 a call so you at least know what your options are.

Only you can really know what feels right to do, don't feel bad about thinking about missing your holiday, thats a natural reaction. I hope everything works out the best it can for you.

[dksbbs]

Sorry to hear your news and I really do ope you still make your holiday.

although this had been expected

The above statement concerns me slightly, was this expected when you booked your holiday? Insurance companies try and not pay anyone out if posible, they may claim you knew your wifes mother was unwell at the time of booking the holiday and therefore this is not covered. I hope I am wrong.


Dave

[Keith]

hi kez and sue so sorry to hear about your predicament and all i can say is that you have to be strong for each other and you will get through it, although you will never forget it.
I was in a similar position in 2007 when my dad took ill. We had had the holiday booked, also two other families were going with us and we had arranged to met with another family who are great friends whilst we were in Icmeler. Two weeks before departure my dad became seriously ill and basically we were told that he had less than 8 weeks to live. My mam and sister both told me to go on holiday and enjoy myself, and after all mandy and the kids also needed a holiday, and that my dad was getting the best possible care.It was probably one of the hardest decisions i have made in my life, and we are all different, so i never judge anybody.
I even tried to persuade mandy and the kids to go, they would be with good friends so i had no concerns about them being in Icmeler with out me.
Anyhow i just could not go and had to tell the minibus driver and neighbours who were going with us that i had made my mind up. It was horrible, but life is a bitch and things are just sent to try you, and you have to deal with the situation as you see fit.
I spoke to our GP and told him about what i had done and he completed all the necessary forms and wrote a covering letter to the insurance company and was sent a cheque for the full amount less the deposit i think.

[kez&sue]

hi all thanks again for all your kind words and advice on insurance etc its been very helpful we are just taking each day as it comes and we have decided that unless things happen right around the date of departure we intend to travel as planned on the 27th of august so thanks for all your input.

[sunseeker2011]

hi all thanks again for all your kind words and advice on insurance etc its been very helpful we are just taking each day as it comes and we have decided that unless things happen right around the date of departure we intend to travel as planned on the 27th of august so thanks for all your input.

Really sorry to hear this bad news and I hope you get to go on holiday, we work all year and look forward to a break in the sun and if you do get to go, just enjoy it and try to put the negative thoughts to the back of your mind.

Once again, sorry to hear this and hope all works out.

[booker]

we had the same with my gran on 2007, me, my wife and my parents had a talk and decided due to the fact my nan did not even know we were even in the room we took the chance and went away, she sadly passed away when we had 2 days left of our 2 week stay and decided to finish the holiday off as we left my sister all the info she needed, we did not regret going away as knowing my nan she would have kicked off if we stayed behind, At the end of the day the choice is yours.

[kez&sue]

hi all i posted this bad news item a few weeks ago regarding my mother in law having been given 8 weeks to live and i must say i recieved some very kind words ,as of wednesday my mother in laws brave fight against cancer ended so we are going to icmeler as planned on the 27th of august we are going to use this holiday to try and relax after what has been an extremely exhausting time for my wife sue,i would just like to thank all the members who sent such kind words and indeed advice regarding whether to cancel or not and how you go about these sort of things believe me all your comments and advice were very much appreciated.

[Silverfox BC]

So sorry to hear your news, even when you are expecting it it still comes as a shock. You know you did all you could so now go and enjoy your holiday and get your strength back. Enjoy and do not feel guilty, you have no need to, regards
Brian and Cynthia.

[sylvia]

Hi so sorry to hear your bad news, you need to relax and enjoy your holiday your mother in law is at peace now, i,m sure she would want you to enjoy your selves as you did your best for her while she was here.

[Keith]

Hi Kez and sue,so sorry to hear the sad news about sues mam. There was no right or wrong answer to the predicament you found yourselves in, but there is no better place in the world to be to give yourselves a lift than Icmeler, Turkey. Hope you can have a great holiday and if you fancy a beer and a bit of craic we will be in the resort till the 31st

[Caltonian]

So sorry to hear about what happened. I've a feeling this is going to be a special holiday all of you. After all you have gone through, there is nothing better than having your family around. A death in the family always seems to result in the rest of the family pulling together and cherishing the time spent with each other all the more, and I say that from personal experience as I lost my mum and dad within 7 weeks of each other less than 2 years ago.

I truly hope you and your family have a wonderful time Kez.

Paul.

[LynnJenny]

so sorry about your sad news you need to get away and relax

[noodles1609]

What a terrible time you've all had, so very sorry for your loss. Some time in Icmeler will be a wonderful tonic for you both x

[Chris221273]

Hi Kez&Sue
Last year we had the same predicament, my mother was very ill in hospital, and they said she probably had days to live.
I spoke with my brother and he told us to go, as we deserved and needed the holiday. My mum has MS in the severest form, and had phneumonia, but we didn't want to go.
He told us to go, try and relax, and if there were any problems he would sort out flying us back.
Thankfully the lords were shining down on us, as she pulled through 3 days later.
A year on and she's doing well.
We are very sad to hear of your loss, but can only say, that she's in a good place now, and will look down on all of you and wish you a wonderful holiday, that no doubt you will dedicate to her.
Chris & Anita

[JenSto]

Kez&Sue
so sorry to hear your sad news, I found myself in similar predicament last year when I lost my dad - my first and only thought was "I cant go on holiday now!" but I did and I knew it would not be a holiday that I could "enjoy" myself . . but the truth of it is that my holiday away from everything, memories and all that reminded me of my loss was exactly what I needed to recharge my batteries and come back strong to start my recovery from the grief. I do hope you find comfort from knowing that others have been where you are and that there is light at end of the tunnel, I am sure your holiday will be just the tonic to give you strength and have the well deserved rest you both need. I am in Icmeler 17th to 31st - not that you would know who I was if you walked past me in the street but just so you know there are people around who have some idea how you will be feeling xx
Big hugs to you both
Jeanette xx